Elegance and Social Media
Unique to your group. You can open with a game, craft, or other activity.
“Such confidence we have through Christ before God. Not that we are competent in ourselves to claim anything for ourselves, but our competence comes from God.” 2 Corinthians 3:4-5 (NIV)
To be an elegant woman is to be a confident woman. Elegance is the “quality of being graceful in appearance or manner and the quality of being pleasing ingenious (clever, original and inventive) and simple.” (dictionary.com)
- When do you feel most confident? What helped you feel this way?
- When do you feel least confident? What was needed to help you feel secure?
Our “image” on social media, at school, and in life comes from who we are on the inside. Our relationship with our mom/daughter can affect our image of ourselves, which affects our image on social media.
GROUP QUESTIONS (optional)
- What does giving elegance look like in my everyday life?
- In my family relationships?
- Social media?
- Community work?
- What are the hard places to show elegance?
Elegance exudes gracefulness formed from inner beauty from choosing and living the qualities of “love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, gentleness, faithfulness, self control.” (Gal. 5:22)
When we know we are loved, it is much easier to give kindness to others.
- Who are people that present elegance and show kindness on social media? (ex. Sadie Roberson, Lauren Daigle, Annie F. Downs)
- Who shows an unhealthy image on social media?
We can ask ourselves:
- Am I portraying the image on social media that is one of kindness?
- Am I living out love, joy and peace by what I am posting?
- How are you coming across on social media?
- How do you think this affects your image and how people see you?
Questions we can ask before posting:
- What am I trying to communicate with this picture?
- Is this honoring to me and the people who are seeing it?
- Why am I posting this? What is my motive?
- Does this post communicate (about me) what I want to communicate?
- Does this add value to me and the other people this involves?
One thing that helps with social media monitoring is accountability. Ask your friends to tell you if something does not look or sound good on social media. If you are ever questioning if you should post something, the answer is probably “no!”
Share an idea about social media and healthy boundaries, or use the example below:
We haven’t had many boundaries for Jesse as it relates to social media, but one boundary that we did have when she was in middle school and high school is that she could not post any pictures of herself in her bathing suit. We just felt like that was a wise boundary for our daughter during that season. She’s always been little and cute as a button, so it was never that we anticipated that someone may say something negative about her. However, even in that case, other kids can be mean, so that risk is still there and we wanted to protect her from that. On the other hand, we didn’t think it was fair to the guys to have pictures like that put out there and then demand that they remain pure in their thoughts. A counselor friend of mine one time said, “Girls, help a brother out!”. We should encourage our girls to help the guys out as they already struggle to remain pure in this world. Many girls seem to try and find value by having these pictures out there because the guys may comment about their appearance. So we need to make sure that we as their parents are flooding their hearts and minds with the encouragement that they need so that they don’t feel they need to post these pictures to hear encouragement. And then in that same way, we don’t want young, immature boys having impure thoughts about our daughter. So the wisest thing we knew to do was to place this boundary out there for our daughter. (Wendy)
Pray together as a group. This is your last planned meeting all together unless you decide to do week 12 as a group.