Relationship with God and Who We Really Are
Moms write 4-6 sentences about how you see your daughter (the good things about who she is) – you will read this to her after group time.
Game with two truths and a lie or a similar game
Think to yourself:
- Do you tell yourself kind things?
Take a moment to write down:
- What are five positives about yourself and two negatives?
- Was it difficult for you to think of the positives?
Share one of your answers with the group.
Who are we and what are we telling ourselves?
“For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.” Ephesians 2:10 (NLT)
WE ARE HIS SPECIAL TREASURE! We are cherished and loved by the heart of God!
*Play Excerpt from the movie Princess Diaries. In the scene where Mia is told that she is really a princess, she is so shocked. She says, “Shut up!” (You can find this on YouTube.)
OR read this about the story:
In the movie Princesses Diaries, a young high school student, Mia, played by Anne Hathaway, is living an ordinary life. She is greeted by her grandmother unexpectedly and told she is princess in another country. She is asked to accept her place as the royal princess and rule this nation. The story portrays Mia’s dilemma of whether she will live her ordinary life or exchange this life for one of grandeur and power. The choice may seem so easy, yet Mia doubts herself and her ability and she does not want to take responsibility for herself or an entire nation. The movie concludes with Mia after reading a letter from her deceased father telling her of the trials she may face but of his deep love for her, she decides to accept her crown, the responsibilities that come with her choice, and her new life as a princess.
We have the same dilemma, don’t we? We are called co-heirs with Christ. We are called to the family of God, the Creator and Ruler of the Universe. We are royalty waiting life in a kingdom. But sometimes we choose to live ordinary. We forget who we really are and go through the motions of the day.
To live feeling ordinary or treasured. Choosing means thinking of ourselves as treasured, daily.
- Do you think about being treasured by God and the fact that you are precious to His heart?
- Does this change how you think about you?
Thinking daily, “I am treasured by God and cherished by His heart,” will change our thoughts and our belief system.
WE WILL FEEL LOVED AND TREASURED IF WE BELIEVE THAT WE ARE!
As people, we long to live a non-ordinary life and to know that we are not ordinary people. We long to be special. We long to have a special place in life. We long to belong.
“Our deepest need is for the inexhaustible power of the love of Christ.” Brennan Manning
In Deuteronomy 26:18 and Malachi 3:17, God calls us, “a special treasure.” (NLT)
YOU are His special treasure! When we feel treasured and loved, we can be real with people. We can share our failures. We can be vulnerable.
- Is it hard for you to be honest with others about what is going on in your mind and heart? If so, why?
- What is the difference in being fake or real? Do you long for realness?
We have a choice to live out who we really are in our “specialness,” knowing we are precious to the King, because we are his children. The assignments and dreams God our King and Heavenly Father has for us will give our life meaning, they will bring joy to our soul. He will equip us with whatever we need to accomplish the task at hand. Who we really are is not always just who we think we are, but who God says we are. If we have given our life to Jesus, then we are Children of the King.
GOD IS LOVE – This fact changes everything! No matter what is happening in life, God’s love is a safe- haven to wrap up in and find comfort and security. God’s heart of love for us is bigger than you and I can imagine.
- What keeps us from shaping our hearts and lives around this incredible love? (work, social media, comparison trap…)
“If we live wrapped in His love, then we can build our thoughts of ourselves on His love. We do not have to look to the world for love, or our spouse or our children for love. Nor do we have to search our childhood for love. Love does not have to be captured in a church service. Our performance at school or work cannot be our source of love. Beauty is not a healthy place to discover love. His immense love reaches deep into the core of my soul and says, “my love is enough; define yourself by this great love, for you are loved.” (The Treasure)
We might need a song, a verse, a phrase to echo in our head to remind us who we are and fight the negative self-defeating thoughts. (For example: We Are the Sons, we are the Daughters of God) This song can become the new echo in your head.
Who we really are – heirs to the throne, children of the Creator, treasures of His heart
- You are His special treasure: What does this mean?
- What do you think of when you think of a treasure?
Read your favorite verse or quote about the love of God, or use the example below:
For example: “His love is something great and powerful that settles in the deepest part of our being (where I don’t like me) and He loves me there. His love is something that covers the mistakes or unwise choices and whispers, “it’s okay, you are forgiven and redeemed, look to Me.” His love combats the voice of the accuser that tells me that I should be more, do more, have more… His love settles into a deep canyon of my soul and tells me (and you), “You are worth living for and dying for.” His love silences the critical voices of the mirror, and says, “You are my masterpiece.” (The Treasure)
Break up into mother and daughter groups
Ask your daughter:
- What makes you feel special?
Read your prepared paragraph, or if you forgot to write one, tell her about how much you enjoy who she is.
Stay in your mother and daughter pairs, or come together to pray.